15 Things Men Refuse to Ask for Help With

While it’s partially an unfair gender stereotype to claim that all men are leery about asking for help in certain areas, it does hold true that each of these topics are sensitive for some men. Whether they feel that asking for help is admitting defeat, showing signs of weakness or an indication that they’re not capable of handling something themselves, these are 15 of the subjects of which most men find it difficult to swallow their pride and seek assistance.

  1. Home Repairs – The man who refuses to call a plumber or carpenter for home repairs that are beyond his actual skill level is an oft-used trope in sitcoms and romantic comedies. It’s also a common enough occurrence in real life that home improvement gurus feel the need to warn homeowners about the potential dangers and increased expense of tackling a home repair that’s too difficult.
  2. Directions – Most men don’t like to ask for directions. It’s such a commonly accepted statement that it’s become ingrained in the cultural consciousness. Whether the reluctance to ask for direction stems from a distaste for admitting a fallible sense of direction or simply from the fact that boys are raised with the idea that men don’t ask for directions, it’s one stereotype that’s based in a bit of truth.
  3. Auto Repairs – Some men are mechanically inclined, while others just aren’t. That doesn’t always stop the latter group from crawling under their hood in a vain attempt to make a repair that they know nothing about.
  4. Electronics – The masculine fondness for gadgets of the electronic variety makes it difficult for men to admit when they’ve stumbled across something that they can’t properly operate or install.
  5. Lawn Work – While many men like to complain about the necessity of caring for the lawn, when it comes down to it, most don’t want anyone helping either because they have very specific ideas about how each task should be handled. Kids are the exception to this rule in the male mind, as they offer free labor.
  6. Exercise – Men who are fixated on sculpting a Mister Universe-worthy physique can be completely fixated on that goal, sometimes to the exclusion of all else. Regardless of how invested they are in reaching a goal, however, many are hesitant to ask a gym buddy for workout advice.
  7. Depression – Because the word “depression” is inextricably linked with the concept of emotional weakness in so many men’s minds, it can be very difficult to convince a man that he should seek help for his depression.
  8. Parenting – Many men dislike the idea of someone telling them how and when to discipline their children on principle alone. As a result, those men aren’t likely to ever ask for parenting advice.
  9. Substance Abuse – Admitting to a substance abuse problem is tantamount to admitting weakness and dependency, two things that many men would be horrified to reveal to the world around them. Rather than seeking help, some men will continue to abuse the substance of their choice until it costs them everything.
  10. Marital Problems – Marriage counseling is a lucrative business, but it might not be quite so popular if women were as opposed to counseling as many of their male counterparts. When marital problems strike, most men would be more than happy to hash them out privately rather than asking for help from a counselor.
  11. Dating – Single men might vent to their buddies about their misadventures in the dating scene, but they aren’t as likely to ask for advice on how to properly navigate the search for love.
  12. Insecurities – Everyone has their own set of individual insecurities, but men are more likely to hide them than women. Where females will often readily admit the things that worry them or make them feel insecure, men tend to be less forthcoming on the subject.
  13. Financial Stress – Men who adhere to traditional gender roles see themselves as the financial provider for the family, a role they take very seriously. When financial problems rear their ugly heads, most men will take a hit before they ask for a loan.
  14. Anxiety Problems – Some people struggle with an anxiety so great that it’s difficult to function normally in society, but macho men will do everything they can to keep those anxieties hidden while they’re in public.
  15. Parts Assembly – Whether it’s a kids’ toy or a new bookshelf, the first thing that gets tossed to the wayside when a man is assembling something is the sheet of paper printed with the directions. When the situation gets out of hand because the directions weren’t followed, this same man will probably not admit that the failed project is his fault, blaming it instead on shoddy manufacturing.

Comments

  1. LOL – Too true for too many men, while it isn’t attractive to be helpless, it’s just as unattractive for men to be that headstrong about his abilities.

    Vulnerability isn’t necessary a bad thing, too many men seem to miss that. I am certain I’ve been guilty of EVERY ONE of these at some point. However, I try (doesn’t always happen) and be humble and realize I know what I know, and I know what I don’t.

    It’s not bad to be human once in a while and admit faults, it’s bad NOT to admit them. (re-read that one more time all you guys)

    Peace and Love,

    Vic